bi sexual urges and post-nut clarity

**stephmtl** · May 4, 2026, 11:31 PM

Hi all, I'm a bi married guy. Not a lot of experience, but navigating my way as a guy that loves women but has urges for m2m play as well. I have an older friend that I get together with from time to time to have some good times. But often once I shoot I am not so into it. This can be awkward. As he takes alot longer to get off. I try to give him a lot more stimulation early but he is aroused by me cumming. This has led to some awkward moments where I m into it, but once I ve had an amazing climax Im suddenly feeling different as I realize I am here with this there with this guys cock in my mouth, and I'm looking at balls as he is still postining in and out of my mouth - and I m like how did I get here? wtf am I doing taking this risk? And even as this feels awkward I'm turned on ahead of time by knowing I owe it to him to continue to suck him off. I keep putting myself in this taboo of being used is a turnon before the deed - but hard to follow through with once I ve cum. Anyone else have a similar feeling or experience?

**Lucky 61** · May 5, 2026, 11:58 AM

What you're feeling isn't uncommon at all and I can relate. I really try to make my playmates get off first.

**DLazguy** · May 6, 2026, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by Lucky 61

What you're feeling isn't uncommon at all and I can relate. I really try to make my playmates get off first.

I was this way too when I would meet up with guys to get a bj. I'd cum and lose interest. I'd also panic about diseases, or my wife or someone I know finding out.

**stephmtl** · May 6, 2026, 11:56 PM

Originally Posted by DLazguy

I was this way too when I would meet up with guys to get a bj. I'd cum and lose interest. I'd also panic about diseases, or my wife or someone I know finding out.

Have you adapted? gotten used to it or adjusted your behavior?

**stephmtl** · May 6, 2026, 11:59 PM

I also get turned on by the thought that after I cum I will be there stuck with my partner - a stocky older man - with his cock in my mouth using it to pleasure himself. I don't get hard again but I guess I m enjoying the submission of it....

**chongster** · May 7, 2026, 10:25 AM

I lose interest after I blow my load but I will still hang in there and suck my partner off if he wants it. I'm a top when it comes to fucking and sometimes the guys I fuck don't want to cum, I don't get it but to each their own.

**DLazguy** · May 7, 2026, 10:46 AM

Originally Posted by stephmtl

Have you adapted? gotten used to it or adjusted your behavior?

Now that I've opened up or accepted I'm bi, I don't really lose interest anymore. I'm still nervous and paranoid that I'll catch something or someone will find out, but I'm now able to enjoy the fact that I just had a hard cock in my mouth. I also get to look forward to having my mouth full of cock and cum instead of just me getting sucked.

**Secretcumlover** · May 7, 2026, 5:32 PM

I am sure this is completely normal. Long before I finally swallowed my first load i would crave cum really bad when I jacked off. I would shoot my load into the palm of my hand with the intent of licking it up . As soon as I came ,I would lose all desire and would wonder WTF was I thinking. I finally forced myself to do it and it was uneventful. Whenever I'd give someone head and wanted to experience his cum in my mouth I would chicken out at the last minute and finish him with my hand. One day I went through with it and I haven't missed a load since. I posted the story on here a few years ago. I had a regular suck buddy that I think had this same phobia after he nutted . He'd shoot his load and I would be all worked up sucking and stroking enjoying my reward and He'd make me stop immediately. He claimed he was sensitive and it was painful but I think there was more to it. It was like he was a different person after he came . A moment of clarity that he just let another man suck him off and was disgusted by it and had to gtfo immediately. Most the time I just suck the guy off then go jack off afterwards. But this morning I had a playdate and I shot my load while he was fucking me . That's never happened but it's omly the second time I've been fucked . I was still super horny so still sucked him off after he fucked me and without hesitation devoured every drop of his load . I guess I've overcome that little hangup .

**Mrdiscreet2** · Yesterday, 7:32 AM

I’d say you have overcome that hang up, Secretcumlover!

**Gregshaw** · Yesterday, 11:28 AM

IMO you're far more normal than you give yourself ctedit for. Back in college, when I first fooled around with guys, I'd often get blown by them & I'd lose interest once I'd cum. As others have said, mostly they weren't looking for anything in return so that wasn't a problem to begin with. I was the same with girls, but I learned how to make them cum, too & it was the same deal, once they'd cum they'd lose interest & scoot, so I don't think it's anything unusual regardless of being male or female, I think it's a normal reaction after your brain has been flooded with enormous amounts of pleasure inducing hormones. Relax & let it all find it's own level.