How many guys are afraid to suck their first cock?

[Newguy300]

Wow my first time was with this new guy in town.... we was all drinking getting high.... We was talking about getting pussy.... None at that time.... He jokingly asked me hey can i suck your dick..... I was like yeah whatever.... funny.... well i always wondered what it was like..... So one thing lead to another..... I was back at his place getting my dick sucked..... I was getting close to busting and i said stop let me suck yours.... So i did it like my ex girlfriend did to me.... He said he was close... I let him cum in my mouth....He finished me off in his mouth......

[bikurinpa]

My issue is, someone who I may be around with all the time is knowing if they may be open to it without being bold and bringing it up and hope things dont go the wrong way!.

[sissyjackie]

Ever since the school gym shower room I was interested but too scared to try it so for years just fantasized about it. About 19 years ago in a chat room got talking with a guy. We sent cock photos to each other he wanted to meet. I balked for about 2 months then finely agree to meet. I went to his house nervous and anxious but excited. I knocked on the door he answered it in just a pair of red sheer panties. I followed him in the living room he sat on the sofa. I took my clothes and still soft sat next to him he smiled then surprised and shocked me I never even thought about it. He grabbed the back of my head pulling me to him landing an open mouth kiss tongues in each other's mouth. we made out like school kids. It was different kissing a man with his stubble rubbing on my face. We rubbed each other's cocks then all of a sudden, he stood up. I slide to the edge of the sofa he turned facing me taking his panties off. His cock inches from my face. I reach up and grabbed it jerking it fascinated with his fore skin as I don't have one. His cock head pink his shaft a darker color. I put it in my mouth tasting his sweet percum. I started work his cock in my mouth loving ever inch of his cock till he exploded in my mouth. We would meet every week and I couldn't wait to get his cock in my mouth.

[dowmass]

This is my 2 cents. Please feel free to share your thoughts.
Sadly, i got to suck a Duck only once, and I had to give up because he didn?t cum after 30 minutes of deep
throating him.

The only thing that would make me hesitate or fear sucking a cock?
It is the fear of catching a bug. Of course one could say - Why suck a stranger?

Good question, but when do you get to know someone so well that you know he has no bugs to give you?

[KDaddy23]

It's not polite to answer a question with a question but how long would it take you to get to know someone that well? How long would it take for you to trust him? Why suck a stranger? Why not? Oh, that's right: Current belief is that a stranger is guaranteed to infect you, but an FWB won't. When in doubt, either do nothing... or wrap the dick in a condom and get to sucking on it.

[Jazminedress]

The reality is, sex is scary, the unknown is scary.

Think about the first time kissing a girl. the excitement, the build up, the nerves. Will you kiss good enough, how do you know when, how much tongue is too much tongue.

Then the first time you had sex with a girl, you were probably so excited at the thought of getting it in.

Now, you have been hetero all your life, you have these feelings and desires and not sure what to do with them. You have been told most of the time, find a nice girl, have a family, maybe you have one.

And now you are thinking about giving a blow job to another guy, of course the first time is scary, thats normal.

Dont let anyone push you, on your own time, when you are ready and it will be much better............just doing it to get it over with, many times wont make it what you want

[dowmass]

It's not polite to answer a question with a question but how long would it take you to get to know someone that well? How long would it take for you to trust him? Why suck a stranger? Why not? Oh, that's right: Current belief is that a stranger is guaranteed to infect you, but an FWB won't. When in doubt, either do nothing... or wrap the dick in a condom and get to sucking on it.

you are absolutely correct.. that?s exactly why I haven?t sucked a dick in 8 years.
in my experience, be it a duck or fuck.. ask the other guy if he has test results to share, and they?ll disappear before you can say ?hello?!

[KDaddy23]

you are absolutely correct.. that?s exactly why I haven?t sucked a dick in 8 years.
in my experience, be it a duck or fuck.. ask the other guy if he has test results to share, and they?ll disappear before you can say ?hello?!

Of course. Test results require a visit to a medical facility and professional - and that means telling them that, gasp, you have sex with men and need to be tested! Answering questions like what kind of sex; how long you have been having sex with men; very personal shit that a lot of guys aren't of a mind to reveal. If there's no facility that'll do such a test for free, fuck, I've seen what my routine blood work costs and if you don't have decent insurance, you could be paying that yourself. Two reasons why if you mention sharing test results, it's an instant deal breaker and you're being ghosted so fast you might wonder if you were actually talking to someone.

If this aspect of things scares the shit out of you, unless you wrap a dick in a condom, you're not going to be sucking any dick because a lot of guys are scared of having to ask to be tested and the cost of lab work if you have inadequate or no insurance can give you a bad case of sticker shock. Just because a guy has no test results to show you doesn't mean he's dirty, but some will assume that he is and using some faulty logic like, "If he was clean, he wouldn't be afraid to get tested!" If it's going to take you weeks or months (or longer) to get to know a guy and be able to trust him, well, just think of how many times you could have been sucking his dick while you were trying to decide if you could trust him so you could suck his dick.

And if you can't trust your own judgement, you're shit out of luck.

[dowmass]

Of course. Test results require a visit to a medical facility and professional - and that means telling them that, gasp, you have sex with men and need to be tested! Answering questions like what kind of sex; how long you have been having sex with men; very personal shit that a lot of guys aren't of a mind to reveal. If there's no facility that'll do such a test for free, fuck, I've seen what my routine blood work costs and if you don't have decent insurance, you could be paying that yourself. Two reasons why if you mention sharing test results, it's an instant deal breaker and you're being ghosted so fast you might wonder if you were actually talking to someone.

If this aspect of things scares the shit out of you, unless you wrap a dick in a condom, you're not going to be sucking any dick because a lot of guys are scared of having to ask to be tested and the cost of lab work if you have inadequate or no insurance can give you a bad case of sticker shock. Just because a guy has no test results to show you doesn't mean he's dirty, but some will assume that he is and using some faulty logic like, "If he was clean, he wouldn't be afraid to get tested!" If it's going to take you weeks or months (or longer) to get to know a guy and be able to trust him, well, just think of how many times you could have been sucking his dick while you were trying to decide if you could trust him so you could suck his dick.

And if you can't trust your own judgement, you're shit out of luck.

ME:
You have some wonderful insights into human psychology. In Dallas where I live, there are more cock suckers than cocks to suck. There are a few places where Testing is free, and people are treated respectfully. But then the question is WHY SHOULD I TAKE THE TROUBLE TO TEST??
Besides if this dude doesn?t trust me when I say I am DDF, why should I care? There are dozens waiting to suck my dick.
Maybe I am just being ?Yoo careful? and that doesn?t help.

[KDaddy23]

I'm one of those people who has to know why something works the way it does and this is included. I have listened to hundreds of guys talk about why they're afraid to suck cock and the disease card gets pulled out and slammed onto the table and as a matter of course. It is something that, well, if you're going to have sex with anyone, you're accepting a modicum of risk and the problem is not being able to really discern who is a walking science project and who isn't.

You can adopt, "Trust but verify..." and in a sexual world that's dominated by instant gratification. You can ask for test results but, yeah, you read what I wrote about that and the answer to why you should be bothered to get tested is that you aren't stupid and if you can't trust other men, you still have to speak the truth when you say that the only thing you're infected with is a bad case of being crazy horny for a hard cock. I'm also betting that in a city the size of Dallas - and I've been there 'too many times', there are a lot of cocks to be sucked but it's not all that easy to find them and if you're looking for a specific kind of guy to ply your oral skills upon, you're passing up an untold number of men you could be sucking but if you're pathologically afraid of catching something - and you believe that if you get into casually sucking guys off it's a guarantee that you will be infected with everything out there - then you're not going to be able to find a dick to suck.

I tell the story of the guy I've been mentoring for a few years now and how he insisted on getting an FWB (or several of them) because it would be safer than just having sex with any old guy on Grindr and the other apps. He got to be FWB with a really nice guy... and one who infected him not once but three times. See, I told him that putting that kind of trust in an FWB doesn't make sense because if your FWB isn't with you all of the time, um, how do you know where his dick has been or who's been in his ass? He trusted his FWB even though there were red flags flying everywhere including a reluctance to get STD tested and being totally dishonest about who else he was sleeping with casually or otherwise.

If you think an FWB is the safest way to go, you might want to rethink that but it remains true that if you decide to have sex with anyone, you run the risk of possibly getting infected... which is why you see your doctor, tell him or her about your sexual activity with men (or women if they're on your menu) and be tested accordingly so that, if nothing else, you are free of the bad stuff - and you have the lab results to prove it.

If there are dozens out there waiting to suck your dick, then you should be about letting them suck it so you can talk them into letting you suck theirs. Are you being too careful? Yes, and so are a lot of guys who have the same concerns you do but if you let those concerns keep making decisions for you - and when you damned well know how to protect yourself - guess what you're not going to be doing? So, yeah - if the dude you're trying to bed doesn't trust you, to hell with him - move on to the next guy and it's just my opinion but if you're one of those "no-recip" guys, um, you might want to rethink that and put yourself "on the list" of guys who want their dick sucked and, again, giving you the chance to talk him into letting you return the favor.

Sometimes, it's not about knowing why things work the way they do but finding out why they don't work the way they could work, and this is just one of many reasons why guys looking to suck the soul out of a guy are sitting on the bench and not sucking cock.

Oh, before I fuck around and forget this. One of the things I learned about test results - and thanks to that period of time when HIV/AIDS were killing people left and right - is that you go to the lab, give them the blood/urine needed for the tests and you get the results that says you have zero STIs/STDs and no trace of HIV... at the time the samples were tested. Does it mean that you're clean and safe to have sex with, say, a month later? You could be but I wouldn't assume that but if you tell me that you've tested negative for anything and I feel that I can trust and believe you, we're going to be spending the day sucking each other off and if I have a reason to get tested before my usual testing - and I see something that's not supposed to be there - I'll let you know so you can get retested and treated and I'm not going to be pissed off because if I've learned nothing about having sex, it's that it's always been risky. Always.

When in doubt, either do nothing... or wrap the dicks in a condom so both of you can be safe.