What first got you interested in BDSM, what has kept you in the lifestyle? Do you have any regrets?
I was introduced to BDSM as a pre-pubescent, having discovered my father's "True Detective" magazines stashed in the basement. These magazines were actually thinly disguised soft-core porn with a re-occuring damsel-in-distress theme. In my early adulthood I was in a relationship with a woman several years older than myself who would, as a rare treat, bind me to the bed and slowly stroke me to an earth-shattering orgasm!
I don't remember how exactly I got started but I do remember enjoying tie up games when I was in my early teens and maybe a little younger. The thrill and pleasure that I get is what keeps me in it. I enjoy the mental aspects as much as the physical. For example, I've gone to several play parties at which I had the opportunity to play. Playing in front of others was thrilling to say the least. Especially since I'm a crossdresser and very few people know about that side of me. BDSM and crossdressing are how I destress. They allow me to express parts of who I am that are usually kept hidden. When I get the chance to dress and play it helps me to feel balanced and relaxed.
My introduction to BDSM came from an arranged meeting I had with an experienced dom. I was tied up with rope and became his personal object of "abuse" that both frightened and excited me even though I went in ready for my encounter. No sex happened but for me at the end of it I felt sore and used up yet also very much adrenalized by what occurred. Needless to say it opened a door in me that has not and perhaps won't ever close. Truly no regrets on my part and hoping to indulge in more of it. Paz y Amor
I was first introduced to it about 15 years ago in a cuckold relationship, the woman at first controlled everything and then slowly started giving me some control because she wanted to see her husband spanked and abused, well they both loved it so I got into C&B and nipple torture and then one evening I slapped her ass and she liked it and one thing led to another and in a couple months I was doung pussy and clit torture on her as well and found I loved it and loved to eithier give her forced argasms or to edge both of them for a couple hours before I allowed them to climax, anyways thats how it started and then when I moved here to St Pete I met a dom that used to use me for what he called his volunteer cock--I take forever to cum and he needed a cock to force his subs to suck and play with, he used to have 3 or guys andf women at once. Needless to say I got hooked.
My interest began while at boarding school. I was often tied up and used, given light spankings, had my nipples tweaked not too painfully and brought to the point of orgasm repeatedly and let down. It was both frustrating and very exhilarating. Once I left school a boy friend began to treat me similarly as part of our sex life and he began to inflict a little more pain than I had been used to. It was never very extreme and while he was a dominant and assertive lover he was not a Dom. After sex and after these sessions I found myself even more exhilarated and decided I needed more. I replied to a freemag advert and found a dom who showed me precisely what S&M was about. We had several meetings and he explained to me about keywords and respect and we discussed my own sexual preferences and taboos. My first proper S&M was in his dungeon and the memory of that is as erotic as my first great sexual experience. It is not that I enjoyed pain, the humiliation and all of the experience, but my fear and helplessness I discovered turned me on to such a high degree that at its end the feeling of life within me and the gladness for my own existence was itself a huge rush. I have never been a frequent regular participant, and am the sub of no dom or domme, but I find myself drawn to it and needing that rush every so often and so it must be. Within the sexual activities I have with partners there are often little s&m games but these are far more restrained and I prefer it to be that way. The real rush and joy of living emanates from my participation and submission to one who is far more expert and knowledgeable.
Watching porn and talking to people about it was probably the biggest reason I got into it, it excited me like nothing else. Then I started to practice with spanking and rough play, being a Dom and a Sub and such and I knew it was my kind of thing. I've always liked pain one reason I only get piercings and tattoos in comfortable shops so it all seemed to fit together even though I will admit I'm not the most experienced person in the world.
My started when I was pretty young, although I had no clue that that was happening. I was dealing with an extreme amount of abuse. At first the fear was so much that I begged no. By the time the abuse stopped I begged for it. Fast forward: in my adult years I began searching about the same abuse that I had been through. Didn't know what it was called until I spoke with someone online about my urges and he suggested a site that I go to. He also suggested some reading material. I soaked up every bit of information that I could find. I knew from the beginning that I was extremely Dominant with women but very submissive with men. Well, time past and a few abusive Masters and I found my husband. He put me in a place of control. I became something that I had not ever been. Dominant over a man. Now I'm a full blooded switch so to speak. I have found that I like Dominating both men and women and with my husband being a switch as well I learned more and more about myself and the world around me. Regrets: i can't say I have any regrets. There's too much learning going on. I thrive more in this lifestyle than I ever have in my life. So no regrets.
I had fantasies of tying up women as long as I can remember. I am a dominate, in life and BDSM and believe in mastering one's life as well as mastering another's. I guess that's a side-effect of being a Marine, learning the self-discipline. I have enjoyed exploring many avenues of punishing my sub, including tit and genital torture, e-stim, spanking (one of my favorites!) and flogging. Such fun! I have absolutely no regrets other than not having explored earlier in life.
i meet a dom guy that took me to new high's being a sub it was only way to go when he tied me up wow waht a turn on
pivctures of men being tied up or punished by a Dominatrix have always excited me.
A GF is into the lifestyle. I followed her and realized that I liked it. I've learned a lot,but sill have a lot to learn.
I would say that my BDSM Fetish began in my Child Hood into my early Teens. Mom was a Dominant Disciplinarian and Punished me with Bare Ass Razor Strappings some times followed with a 2qt Full bag Enema! That later led me into exploring Spankings,Enemas,Bondage,Oral/Ana with Girl Friends/Women Both Submissive/Dominant Roles. In my late 40's I discovered my Bisexual side and experienced Give/Receive Oral/Anal Sex with a few like minded Guys over the years. However my favorite Bi-Endeavor was with a Bi-CD! We Both enjoyed Switching Roles Often and found it Exciting in Either Role!! That ongoing endeavor lasted for about a year and ended when I had to move out of state because of my job. I would Love to find a Bi-Guy? Bi-CD? to once again Share/Exlplore Our Bi-Desires/Fantasies(yours/min) in a Fun/Hot endeavor as a Dom? Sub? or Switch? Discretion/Mutual Respect and Trust are a Must!
i used to spank girls was fucking them doggy style and hand spanking there ass after i got married did my wife like that and would fuck her in the ass after 2 years or so she brought a strapon dildo and started fucking me in the ass and spanking me later on she would tie me over a table shove a butt plug in my ass and whip my ass with a belt or riding crop and make me suck her strapon dildo of course we would switch and i would whip her ass and make her do things i wanted to do to her after she passed away i got into doing it with other men and women and have been the dom and the sub as i got older like being the sub better but still dom some
Started in the 1970's...was in my DNA
