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I am part of a lgbt group that own and run businesses in the top of the south island..... tho I do more computer tech work and charity work than running a LGBT orientated business, I am more of a majority share holder as I have ample access to financing

between us, we own and run cruise bars, hostels, backpacker / B &B etc.... and currently we are looking very seriously at buying the local bar that the LGBT use, something that would be good in my eyes... as it would make it a more secure and permanent place for the LGBT to meet

trouble is where I live, is a town of about 50k people and there is no way in hell that we can have sexuality only nights as there is simply not the numbers needed to cover the costs.... tho I can understand the desire for bi and gay / les only nights..... however there is the numbers to support a trans / crossdresser night.... and thats a night where any person regardless of sexuality can come dressed up as the opposite gender and they get discounted drinks........

that has caused a issue.... as arguments like females can dress as a male and appear normal but males can only dress as ladies and how do we define between crossdressing and normal dress..... well my attitude is WE DON'T, we do a discounted drink policy if the person is wearing ANY visible item of opposite sex clothing and that covers females wearing jeans......

I will be the majority shareholder so what I say, will go, not that I like running any business that way, I perfer equal input as money should not equal more of a voice......and a $ 10k sharesholder has as much of a voice as a $1 mill dollar share holder in my eyes

part of my proposal is that part of the bars profit goes to support a local LGBT youth group and give them a secure, safe location to meet, and get advice and support...... the opposition there is that its the wrong look for a bar to be supporting youth..... never mind the fact that the profits will be channeled into a trust that will run the LGBT youth support group, not the bar directly.....as the LGBT youth do not really have a * home * of their own

another part of my proposal is that we have a zero discrimination policy, we are LGBTHIGQCSSUA etc inclusive.... or lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, hetero, intersexed, gender queer, cross dresser, sexuality undefined, allies etc.... you could be a alien from mars that has sexual relations with fence posts and you are welcome ..... but no, there is once again opposition to be so inclusive of non lgbt people..... and this shit is going on with the LGBT community for gods sakes......

it is so frustrating that the majority of the support is coming from the heterosexual community and is no where near as opinionated and judgmental as the LGBT community that we are trying to include and support...... yet there is constant cries about equality and equal treatment and anti discrimination......

if I was to withdraw my backing, about 7 businesses would collapse trying to buy me out, as they lack the financing to buy my share of the businesses.....and I am not interested in seeing any businesses go under, specially LGBT businesses as they are a valuable and important part of the community.........

as one of my friends put it " never has so much been bitched about by so few when so little is done by so many when they want so much "

[CENTER][SIZE=4][FONT=century gothic]Akiko

When it was over, Akiko was gone.
Hardly surprising.
I feel so tired.

Our argument took place in my private garden,
patterened after the Zen Gardens of Kyoto.
It was a place of transcendent beauty,
and tranquility...
...but no longer.

My garden has been wreaked,
it's patterns broken,
order turned to chaos,
the story of my life.

No matter how hard I ...

Iam going to be in the des moines area 4ishtill 11ish tonight & want to hook up! i will check back on line to see if anyone is intrested! leave a way 4 me to contact you.&lets have some fun!couples a plus!!!!:wiggle2:

only a test

I have often heard / read about how we need to educate people about being bisexual and showing them how we think, feel and express ourselves.... and using media such as tv and movies, will serve to educate them.....

out in the public eye, being bisexual, being proud, being visible, being on tv and in movies, can be as confusing as hell, to other people, and the reason for that, is that bisexuals work by a set of rules that is as fluid as some bisexuals sexuality and one of the biggest problems is trying to convince people that what they are seeing is what we are doing but what they call it is wrong, what we call it is right.....

" monogamy is wrong " is a common catch phrase from people regardless of sexuality, and " that is proven by nature as much of the animal kingdom is not monogamous "..... and that is true and correct.... but much of the animal kingdom work on the principal of survival, not going to dating sites.... and within lion prides and wolf packs, its only the * top dog * that gets a leg over, something that is often ignored by people that talk about monogamy in the animal kingdom, something that I find quite amusing...... its like having cheese and crackers without the crackers....

that leads people to the understanding that no bisexual on tv can be in a relationship with a partner and have it work.... cos thats a big NO NO in tv land.... you have to have drama and issues.... and oh baby, bisexuals are a very good *toy* for tv execs

part of the conception that people have about bisexuals is that bisexuals can not be committed to a person or faithful..... the issue that some bisexual face, is conveying to people that a bisexual can be committed to a person and faithful to a person, but that the commitment and faithfulness only applies on some levels, not others, and therefore a bisexual is happily committed and faithful to one person and not the other ten people that they have slept with in the last year......

in movies and tv shows, its so hard to convey that type of thinking, as its more often a long drawn out period of talking between partners...and in the world of tv where a day can pass in 5 minutes, its often easier just to portray the bisexual as in and out of beds faster than a shopaholic goes in and out of shops with a gold visa.... then telling people that we can and are committed to our partners and we worked out a understanding with our partners over the last couple of months ( 7 minutes in tv terms and 23 minutes of yelling, screaming, door slamming, talking to the hot neighbor, passionate sympathy sex, then back to the partner for a kiss and make up scene... until next episode )

the issue is that many people already have a understanding of having extra partners, they call it fucking around / sleeping around, and that creates issues for bisexuals as its not a nice thing to be told that you are fucking around on your partner, but it is confusing for other people when we use the understanding that we are not fucking around on our partners, we are committed and faithful to our partners while we are having sex with other people......

the trouble that can arise, is that peoples views are often very different when they are looking in the mirror and then looking out the window.... and while they can see issues with others behievour, they may well not see any issues with their own and so we often see the * its not my fault I had sex with other people * statement about themselves v's the * that person is just a bed jumping freak * about others....

there is no simple and easy way to portray bisexuality in tv and movies, without making bisexuals look like they are just going from bed to bed to bed.... tho it seems to be ok for heterosexual people to do that a lot on some of the programs I have watched over the years.... once such program in NZ is called shortland street, a program based around a med clinic.... and one of my friends told me that they can not name a character in that series ( excluding underage people ) that has not either cheated on or slept with at lest two other characters in the series....

interestingly enuf there was a lesbian couple, faithful, committed and monogamous, until one female came out as bisexual, and within two weeks of the show, she had cheated on her partner with 2 other females, shagged a male doctor and was hitting on a male hospital executive..... a few of my bisexual friends wrote rather angry letters about the portrayal of a bisexual on the show, to the studio and the way it portrayed bisexuals as bed bunnies.... and promptly got ignored.....

it raised the issue within my group of LGBT friends as how the hell do you protray bisexuals in the media ( tv and movies ) without them looking like they will shag anything that moves and even some things that don't...... and it appeared that the easier way was to portray a bisexual person with two partners, one of each sex....... the studio refused to go for that as it was too much of a unbelievable storyline ( inside info )...... WTF ???????????

so we come to the issue of portraying bisexuality in tv and movies is not going to be as easy as we may like to think...as we can not accurately capture the issues of coming out to partners and long term talking and compromising, so we are left with the bed hopping image of the bisexual that is confused and constantly horny......

so we have the issue of people looking at bisexuals on tv and in movies and saying " see, bisexuals can not commit to their partners, they will constantly sleep around with other people, and we are saying, no they can committed to their partners, they are just having sex with other people...... some bisexuals call it bisexual monogamy and no they are not politicians, some call it open compromise in a relationship and some call it a working bisexual relationship....... bisexuals like me, call it TV and wonder why we watch it.......

so how do we not confuse people about bisexuality on tv and in the movies ? I have no bloody idea.... but I know a few 1000 people that will complain about how any bisexual is portrayed.... and it kinda makes me wonder why we use the media to portray something that may well do us a disservice anyway by enforcing the idea in peoples heads that we can not be committed and faithful ( be it bisexual monogamy or monogamy, or a compromised and working open relationship etc ) and that we are nothing but bed hopping people, instead of people that enjoy the beds of other people of either gender and the bed of our own partner.....

Change is on the front burner for those of us here at Bisexual.com as we navigate our way through a new, and, IMO, improved website. (Thanks Drew!) I am pleasantly surprised as to how quickly I adapted to the new format since I have never considered myself technically savvy. I was a computer novice and an internet virgin when I first arrived at Bisexual.com over five years ago. A lot has changed since that day when I first logged on and while I am excited about my new found comfort with the internet and all things computer related, I am mostly excited about the changes that have taken place with me personally.

When I joined Bisexual.com, I had a very happy marriage and a very full and satisfying sex life, but I had turned a blind eye to the fact that my husband was bisexual. He told me the night that he proposed to me and even though he had been monogamous with me, the very thought of it frightened me. I knew very little about bisexuality but I knew enough to be frightened of how it might affect me or my marriage. I needed to learn...I needed to understand....I needed to allow him to be able to talk to me about it and share it with me without him feeling guilty or me feeling afraid. I felt I owed it to him....I owed it to me...I owed it to US. After visiting a few other websites, I chose this one and I remember how nervous I was when I first clicked that button to enter the chat room. I had never been to a chat room of any kind at that point and I had no idea what would be awaiting me when that screen popped up. Would there be a sexual free for all going on? Would I be inundated with sexual advances from both men and women? Or even worse, would I be automatically shunned when they found out I was straight??? Instead of finding the aforementioned scenarios, I was greeted quite warmly and embraced and at that moment, my love affair with this site began. I began to find myself comfortable among the chatters and I realized that they were no different than anyone else that I had associated with in the past. I soon found myself making some wonderful friends and over the next several years, I spent a great deal of time with those friends in that chat room, probably too much time, but I loved every single minute of it. They never made me feel out of place....they never hesitated to explain things to me....and they never tried to change me. (although there was the running joke about the super secret Bisexual.com sexual conversion team that was going to take me aside and "bend" me.)

After a while, I was able to lose my fears of what was previously unknown to me and I slowly discovered that my world, as well as my own sexuality was opening up. I became a lot more adventurous in bed (much to my hubby's delight). I began to incorporate his fantasies into my own. Together, as a loving couple, we began to develop new fantasies, we experimented with toys, and eventually, at my suggestion, not his, we opened up our relationship. As a result, we have become closer as a couple. We play as a couple, something we both agreed on and feel more comfortable with. During this evolution of our relationship, I found myself becoming a bit more aware of my own sexuality and I was finally able to admit that I was bisexual as well...something that I had suspected, but suppressed, for many, many years. So to all my friends who may have noticed...YES...I have indeed changed my Kinsey score and NO...I have NOT had sex with a woman. BUT I can finally admit who I really am (it does make for some lovely fodder for some lovely fantasies.:tong:) I'm not saying it will never happen...but who knows? All I know is that I have this site and the people who come through it's portals to thank for accepting me and allowing me to be a part of it. I know we sometimes complain....I know we sometimes have fights, but all in all, it is a lovely community full of lovely people and I am all the better for having been a part of it.

Several years ago before I got married I managed/owned a small business downtown. I had a very good client base who were mostly parents, but many single moms. Gina was a regular who would bring her son in on Saturdays for a model or some Hotwheels. She did this because this was the day that I worked alone and she did not like my boss (I solved this by buying it). We talked and once in a while she would bring me lunch and I would reciprocate. Dating without the sex.

Gina showed up per her Saturday norm but this time without her son. She walked in and sat down on one of the stools provided for costumers and asked the usual questions. I smiled and said all was ok and the good thing was that my boss was out of town. She smiled and looked around. I asked her if she was there for me and she told me that was a most definite. Gina was younger than me. At 25 she was all woman. Blond streaked hair, green eyes, and a nice rubenesque body with the curves in the right places. Packed nicely, she was cute. She smiled at me and asked when lunch was and at that very moment customers walked in. Her nipples betrayed the fact that our conversation was nothing but normal and catching me looking she moved the stool towards me so it was between the counters so no one else could get a glimpse of what was meant for me.

I asked if she could do dinner and she said she had all weeekend smiling at me then moving her head coyly. I smiled and took her to my small back room and I put a stool in the corner and had her sit there. She smiled and called it cozy. Another customer walked in. As the customers cleared the store my hard on was less than invisible and beginning to hurt. I walked into the back room and sat on the stool closest to the door. She got up, grabbed the step stool and moved to in front of me and sat down. She undid the buttons on my levis then pulled out my hardened cock precum dripping.

I leaned my head back and looked at the ceiling as she took my cock, balls and all. Holy god that was great. As my cock head hit the back of her throat she reached up and grabbed my sack and pulled it. I just reached out and wrapped both hands around her head and started fucking that hot wet mouth with no abandon. I grew harder and my cock pulsed begging to shoot it's load. I reached down to pull her tits which were fantastic. Tight hard tits with nice shaped nipples measuring 36D and solid. I pulled them. Hard they were not easy to lose and I held them till I came.

Sucking harder, the precum was flowing down her throat softly moaning she stood for a brief second to kiss me then continued. I heard the door bell ring and heard voices. Just as I was about to tell her to slow down and wait till I got back we locked gazes and the hand that was now groping my balls let a finger out...that finger pressed sharply and directly against the sensitive spot behind my balls and did what it was supposed to...I blew a load so big it caught her by suprise and she choked on it but she continued and finished me.

I stood, grabbed a remote controlled car and walked up to the counter. I placed it there while several people milled about...as we stood there I looked down, smiled, and noticed that she was soaked to the bone. She then looked down, slightly embarrassed she smiled back and looked into my eyes and without making a sound her lips moved forming the words, "I'm a cummer". I got hard again. We dated or hung out for a few months as it was all fun. We went our seperate but friendly ways.

A while back I used to work for Pinkerton Security Agency. The hours were long and the pay was reletively low...who am I kidding it was shit. I was not like a lot of the men and women they had working for them who, if given the chance would take product from the company where we were working and sell it on Sunday at the local flea markets. One weekend I was asked if I wanted to be the weekend training officer at the location where I worked and I agreed. My only job was to teach the newbies how to clock a building, what to report, and how to log in incidents and accidents.

I was not new to security. Matter of fact I had more training in this field at 25 than did the supervisors and the office managers did at 50.

I offered up my pearls of wisdom which they accepted and the onslaught of newbies came. On my first weekend I trained 4 people who went to other locations. On my second weekend they sent me 6 more and they went off to other locations. On my 3rd weekend I got a nasty suprise. They sent a female officer who I had seen working in the uniform scheduling division office. I asked her how long she had been with the company and she said 3 days. I looked at her and smiled, nodded and asked her if she was ready.

Off we went. First stop I show her how to make out the safe checks. I watch as she fills them out...nice ass...she turns and we walk down to the cafeteria. I sit and she does too. I tell her how to check the cafe. She gets takes off her jacket...nice tits...and goes about checking off the check list. She comes back and sits down. I go into detail why I have her do the stuff herself and that is so she will remember it and no one will show her. We go through the whole place and return to the office. The place is empty.

On the third hour rounds start again. This time she is doing them. Alone. I send her out because the fourth hour I will go out while she relaxes and check her work. She does well she passes. As she is doing her checks I make a call. "is Roberta working on monday" I ask the clerk in Uniform Scheduling. "No. she is inspecting this weekend and is on location till 6am. Meassage?" "Nah I will talk to her myself at 7 tomorrow". The voice chuckles, "She is off tomorrow, she is doing inspections tonight. Thats why I asked if you wanted to leave....." I hung up.

I look at my watch and my friend Roberta is over due. I gear up and walk on down to the warehouse. Not there. I walk to the display floor. Not there. I walk to the cafe. Not there. I go up to the offices and the conference rooms...there she is.

I look at her. She smiles and says have a seat. I smile and say no that we have work to do. She slaps the sofa. I slap my thigh...lets go I tell her. She stands and asks if I do that to everyone. I step ominously to her and lean into her face eyes to eyes...no I said, only to sneaky supervisors who are here to see if I steal or cheat payroll. She leaned back and took a second look. I told her I knew who she was and her office gave her up.

She smiled. she went into a long tap dance about how she had seen me and wanted to get to know me but I seemed stand-offish. I told her my girl issues and she smiled...she really didn't have a pretty face but her body made up for it....she told me she had the same problems and wanted to meet me for some fun without a woman. The lightbulb lit up, but was shot down immediately, no threesomes. Dammit.

I sat down next to Roberta and made her make the first move. My cock which was already growing came to attention almost immediately when she slid her hands over the silky smooth polyester. Her nipples were pointing out through the white cotton shirt. I could smell the muskiness of her pussy as I leaned in to kiss her. she whispered, "Fuck me good, hard, fast, and deep and you will see me every weekend". I stood and pulled my cock out as my pants hit the floor, I took her head in my hand and pulled her toward my cock. She fought that but I leaned down and told her to soak my cock so I could fuck her.

Dripping with saliva, Roberta stood, dropped her pants, and grabbed my cock and guided it into her...ass?? WOW! I slid my cock in slowly as the back of her head laid flat on her back! She moaned as I felt something wet running down my leg. I looked down and her pussy was flooding with juice. I started to fuck her tight ass as fast as I could. She grabbed the back of the sofa and pushed her ass back while I grabbed her hair and pushed my cock in...holy shit! She was yelling at the top of her lungs how much she liked being fucked in the ass and how much she hated her..wife? Oh well...

So as soon as I blew my load deep in her ass she was back on it again...sucking and pulling she wanted a decent pussy fuck. so I gave her one. I sat her ass in an office chair and pumped it up. I pushed it against the wall so it wouldn't move and I grabbed her booted ankles and threw them up so her wet swollen pussy was right there at cock level.

I slid my cock in deep but slowly. Her pussy was so wet that I couldn't feel the walls of it. So I just started to fuck her but soon I found out something very interesting, her pussy somehow fills with air then when it is let out it envelops the cock. The walls collapsed around my cock and tightened up. placing her boot heels on my shoulders I reached around her skinny legs and grabbed her nice tits. Small, round, perky and puffy they were very grabbable. With every inward thrust I grabbed a little harder. She begged me to fuck her because she wanted nothing more to do than to come..and she did.

As my cock began to swell her pussy had all it could take and began to pulse while my cock was throbbing. At almost the same time I told her I wanted to cum in her mouth, she told me to fuck her mouth and cum there...I sat her up and slammed my cock in almost gagging her and it was a good thing as I started cumming that second. I took her back to the couch and sat down with her and we played for a while after that.

It was 4am and we were behind schedule. She signed off on the paper work and told me not to worry about the rest of the rounds that she would write it off. She did. For the next 4 months she would show up on Sunday to test me...in more ways than one.