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[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]I’m bisexual. I married a woman who, at first denied her bisexuality; a female babysitter introduced her to pussy and for years she denied that she enjoyed licking the babysitter’s pussy and, of course, having hers licked. Years later - and sadly - she had to go to prison and was roomed with another woman who she admitted spent her nights having sex with my wife despite how much trouble they could have gotten into.

After her release, let’s say that she cheated on me to keep getting pussy... and with a woman I went to high school with! And, eventually, her need for pussy made her demand that we open our marriage. I didn’t want to do this but it was better than (1) leaving her and (2) not knowing who she was sleeping with. The upside? I got to sleep with anyone I wanted to and we turned to playing with other people so that we could indulge in our bisexuality.

We had three children together and two of the three chose to be bisexual and while one decided to remain straight, he also had a few same-sex experiences.

i know my boys experimented with each other... and, yes, it was allowed because we knew they were going to do it even though we officially said not to. I caught them at it one day when I went to check on them because they were too quiet.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]I understand penis envy and there was a time when I had it jumping all over me; shit, how come my dick ain't that big? - and despite being told by many a lover that I had a big dick and, yeah, I learned to tell when they were trying to bullshit me on that one - and because they were disappointed that I didn't have a foot-long monster living in my underwear. But I got over it because I learned that, if nothing else, it's not the size of the dick that matters - it's the guy who's attached to it that makes having an overly large dick a good or bad thing.

"What size cock do you prefer?" We've all seen this thread popping up from time to time and it just fucking fascinates me to no end to see how many guys not only want a big dick, they want a big, black one... and I'll be damned if I really know why.

I don't care about size. In my life, I've had them as small as three inches hard to a whopping thirteen inches - and I measured that dude twice just to make sure I was doing it right. I just prefer dick - period. Does it work? Is it clean and healthy? And, most important, is he my idea of an asshole because if he is, instant deal breaker.

I'm gonna ask you guys who want BBC to tell me, if you can or want to, why you prefer BBC. If a guy you click with is only five inches, is it a deal breaker for you? Makes you feel some kind of way because he doesn't have a dick down to his knees? What about BWC? Would that work in place of a BBC?

Come and tell me... because I really do want to know.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]His type of guy just seems to be the kind of guy who is also packing eight inches or more and I've had a good time laughing at his expense when he's told me how difficult it is to suck a dick that big and fat and, holy shit - having one going in his ass makes him feel like he's being ripped and torn apart.

And he can't seem to avoid big-dicked black guys. It took me three years to convince him to have sex with someone who wasn't black or hispanic and he was very, very reluctant to do so but he did and, how about that - some of white guys had really big dicks, too. He tells me that the really big dicks are nice to look at... but dealing with them are problematic. And I tell him that if he's gonna stick with his preference for black men - but he finds the big-dicked ones to be... troublesome, well, only look for black guys with average-sized cocks; given where he lives, that shouldn't be a problem.

As the intelligent guy that he is, he does understand that dicks come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Yes, it's true that [I]some[/I] black guys have stupidly big dicks - but not all of us do. When he has come across a black guy who ain't even close to being hung, he's good with it... but I find it curious that every man who has fucked him to date has been black... and with a really big dick.

Coincidence? Or is there really something to this and something I'm not understanding? I know I don't find anything fascinating about BBCs since, again, I've seen them up close and personal; I've sucked them, have had them in my ass and, nope - not really impressed but it just is what it is. Obviously, I'm black so I'm probably biased about the whole BBC thing - familiarity does, somehow, breed contempt.

So I see white guys, oriental guys, all kinds of guys, ranting and raving over BBC - women, too - and I still wanna know why. Sure, a lot of guys don't specify a color - they just want to play with a really big dick even thought they probably understand that any size dick can get the job done. I've heard a lot of white guys - in particular - express some disappointment because the guy they got with didn't have a horse cock and, well, I think myself to be a pretty smart guy... but I don't understand this any more than I did when I first started investigating it a few decades ago.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]I think we've always believed that the bigger the dick, the better the sex. I happen to know that a bigger dick stands a better chance of inducing pregnancy in women since, yeah, they can bust that nut much closer to a woman's cervix than an average - or less than average - sized guy but, uh-huh - average guys still get women pregnant just the same.

I've seen, heard, been with women who were over the moon about having a huge dick... and pretty much got grounded to find that the sex with such a huge dick left a lot to be desired and, I think, the reason why a lot of women started saying that it's not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean. You know you've hit rock bottom when black women reject black men for sex... because they don't have a big fat dick that hangs down to their knees and as a matter of course.

I gotta say to the folks who are "crazy" about BBC, I'm not "hating" on you or anything like that - you want what you want and the way you want it and I am 100% good with that. I'm just the black guy who often wants to know what's so fascinating about BBCs since I happen to know that there are a lot of white guys - and other ethnicities - that have big dicks, too. Why does this matter so much?

The guy I'm currently mentoring is a 40-something white guy who, unsurprisingly, has a thing for black men and the older, the better. He asked me one day, "Where are all the black guys with average-sized cocks?" and then asked me if I thought that some of the big-dicked brothers were into M2M because the size of their dicks wasn't getting them any pussy (or not a whole lot of it). My answers were, "They're out there somewhere!" and "Probably - not all women want a fat, 11-inch dick reaming their pussies out."

And, yeah - I've been told by women that my dick is too big, if you can imagine that.

Anyway, I asked him a question: "Why are you so attracted to black men?" He's not a "BBC fiend" but as long as the guy isn't white, well, that just works for him and I even learned that he has a lot of contempt for white males because he sees them all of the time and, as such, doesn't find them sexually attractive. That makes a lot of sense, well, it does to me, because I know black guys who will only get with white guys.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]Traveling the country and the world exposed me to the same BBC thing I'd been seeing at home and I found it terribly fascinating how so many people believed or would ask if it was true - they didn't even have to finish the sentence for me to know what they were talking about. When the movie, "Blazing Saddles" came out and Cleavon Little and Madeline Cahn had that scene where the lights went out and you could hear her saying, "It's true! It's true!" I pulled a muscle laughing my ass off because, of course, I knew it wasn't... but the stereotype was still very much alive.

[FONT=verdana][/FONT]Having sex with men and women across the country and outside of the country; many times being rejected because I don't have a dick that threatens to trip me if I don't wrap it around my waist a couple of times or, to me, worse, being rejected because I was black. My experiences in life taught me to be color blind and not to believe that, um, all white guys ate pussy and all white girls sucked dick but, apparently, there were a lot of people around the world who wasn't of a mind to not believe the hype.

Today. I see so many people who are all about BBC - Big Black Cock - and, true enough, holy shit, there are some brothers out there who have it going on and incredibly so. I've had sex with some of them because their dicks are so big and fat that no female wants anything to do with the guy. I see profiles on A4A written by men - and race notwithstanding - who say that if you don't have at least eight inches of dick, well, you suck, you loser. Once, I had a woman break out a measuring tape so she could measure me when I was fully hard - I checked in at just over seven inches, if you're wondering - and she said that I passed... barely.

Had a white guy tell me, once we got naked and ready to throw down, that he was disappointed that my cock wasn't nine inches or better and that he was considering calling the deal off but, eh, since I was already here and we were both naked, it was better than nothing.

I see some guys here talk about their preference for BBC and, without any offense to anyone with this preference, I'm just amused by it even though, when I was much younger, I used to get offended by it. I know about BBC; have had them, seen them, and while the cocks themselves are impressive to look at, eh, sometimes, the guys attached to them aren't so impressive.

I've seen lot of interracial porn and some of it proves that white guys have BWC - Big White Cocks - but, yeah, that just stands to reason. But in porn, you rarely see black men who are just average; nope, you see the monster-sized dicks stretching some poor woman's mouth, ass, and/or pussy and, really, not too dissimilar to BWCs, BLCs (Big Latin Cock) - any really big dick. Some guys have ginormous dicks. Some guys don't.

Why does it matter?[/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]You might guess that having to live up to this "reputation" was a pain in the ass and how frustrating it often was to hear a girl say, "You're pretty good... but I thought you'd be bigger..." or to just sit and have my jaw dropping to hear how excited a white person was to have sex with a black person... or having to listen to those who said they'd rather eat shit and die before they have sex with a nigger because it was true we were all animals when it came to sex.

I even got to the point where I'd tell those who had "jungle fever" (as it became to be known and thanks to the movie by the same name) that, um, you know, I've had a lot of sex with black people and I don't know what the hype is all about... and they'd look at me like I'd grown a third eye or something. I was learning that there was a fascination that went back to the slave days and going forward, interracial tensions were at an all-time high but while it served to keep a wall between blacks and whites interacting at a more personal level, yeah - a lot of people were just attracted to the forbidden fruit and ignored the sentiment that everyone should stay with their own kind.

While in Air Force basic training, one of the white guys walked up to me in the shower, looked at my dick and said, "I'm not impressed." Took me a second to understand what he was talking about and I just shrugged and said, "Good - glad to hear it." You tend to get a bit self-conscious being around 45 other white guys who just stared at you whenever you were naked - and even if you weren't... and you knew why they were staring.

But it gets better.[/SIZE][/FONT]

[SIZE=3][FONT=verdana]In the high school days, jeez, being in the shower/locker room after gym class was just plain funny - at first - to see the white guys checking out naked black guys and mentally comparing cock sizes. I mean, I was checking out the guys, too, and everyone present was proof that cocks come in all shapes and sizes and I had to endure being ragged about my dick and guys telling me that my dick was so big and fat it was double-jointed.[/FONT]

[FONT=verdana]But the white kids would either sneak a peek or just outright stare at me and the other black guys. One day, I asked a guy who I not only caught peeking at my junk but admitted he was fascinated by black dicks why he was fascinated and he said that he heard that we all had huge dicks, didn't eat pussy, were all homophobic, were super fantastic lovers, etc. - and I laughed so hard I almost pissed myself.

I was starting to understand why a lot of the white girls I wanted to fuck was turning me down; they'd heard some "horror stories" about our "horse dicks" and how we'd use them to rip their pussies apart and that we were animals when having sex - oh, you may or may not believe the shit I heard and shit that, by the time I finished high school, was only partially true and just like a lot of stereotypes tend to be.

I'd have sex with a white guy or gal and they'd either be over the hill about the size of my dick... or not all that impressed and, sometimes, disappointed that I really didn't have a dick that hung down to my ankles. Still, a lot of whites were just hyped to have sex with a black guy; girls would be shocked to have it proven that I ate pussy and guys were surprised that I wasn't homophobic... and I'd find it odd that white guys who had a bigger dick than I did were still pretty hyped about the size of my dick, such as it was.[/FONT][/SIZE]

[FONT=verdana][SIZE=3]I remember the day when one of my white male friends asked me, "Is it true that all black guys have big cocks?" The question surprised me so much that a lot of the RC Cola I had started drinking went flying through the air and out of my nose. After I got myself situated I said, "Not all black guys have big dicks." and, of course, I knew that given how many black dicks I'd already seen and had.

Next question: "If I show you mine, will you show me yours?"

Well, sure (wink, wink) and after making sure the coast was clear, we both pulled down our pants and underwear and eyeballed each other's dick and, um, okay - mine was bigger than his but while I didn't think much about that, he was totally fascinated and wanted to touch it and, well, um, you can probably guess how things went after that.

I didn't think much of it but by the time I got into high school, I found a lot of my white friends asking me (1) was it true we all had big dicks and (2) was it true that none of us ate pussy. It was funny at first (and got me laid a lot in high school) but then it got to be... annoying and every time someone asked me if it was true, I'd just shrug, roll my eyes, anything other get into a conversation about something that I knew wasn't true and, frankly, I was kinda tired of talking about.

I'd listen to whites I knew and, sometimes, overhear those I didn't know, go on and on about black guys having big dicks and I couldn't understand why they seemed to be so... fixated on this. Now, some whites called bullshit on the myth; they either knew for a fact it wasn't true or they just dismissed it out of hand. It would be unfair of me to say that everyone who asked believed it to be true... but I wanted to know why they wanted to know - I mean, seriously: What's the big deal about?[/SIZE][/FONT]