Sexual fantasies about being the opposite sex

[bikiniman]

I am interested to know how many people have sexual fantasies where they are a member of the opposite sex, and if they do what they fantasize about.

I enjoy sexual fantasies where I imagine what it would be like to be a women, to have breasts, a clitoris and a vagina. I sometimes fantasize about masturbating as a women and how it might feel to be fucked by a man.

Am I one of the few or is this commonplace?

[biguy3113]

I have thought about being a woman and even wear my wifes underwear to feel more female. I believe that if I have a vagina and boobs I would never leave the house and also would definitely know what a man feels like inside me which is something I am impatiently waiting for right now.

[biguycancun]

I'm a bisexual cross dresser and my SO is a transsexual woman who has had breast augmentation but does not want to proceed any further. She is very beautiful and when dressed, I am absolutely passable.

Our sex life is rich and varied and my fantasy life is incredibly complex and enjoyable. I can be totally masculine while "topping" her or be soft and feminine when she's inside me. And then there are our lesbian trips which involve only oral and no insertion other than fingers.

I'm perfectly comfortable in each of these scenarios and my "head-set" switches accordingly. I consider myself very lucky.

Curiously, we've never discussed this between ourselves. I'll ask her tonight.

[Jessicaknight]

Every time I watch a porn I fantasize about being the female.

If I had a choice at birth, I would choose to be Born a female.

I love to wear panties but not bras. I don't have anything to fill them
I am nowhere near passable so I only dress up for my wife and for myself.
I love to feel like Jessica and have the sexual mentality of BellaDonna.

[berryhard]

when I watch a porn I often fantasize about being the female, usually a hot brunette, sucking the guys big hard cock, having his thick penis fuck my pussy hard and plunging into my ass in every position and having him cum in my mouth, on my face and my tits. i still use that as fantasy when i j/o. have no desire to cross dress or anything, just love cock and wonder what it would be like to be a women and be fucked silly.....

[jdfreckle]

I've had that fantasy since I was about 16 years old. I let my mind wander and imagine what it feels like to be a girl and have my best girlfriend make out with me. I imagine having a girl's body, touching my own breasts and masturbating, even having my boyfriend fuck me. I think it's a longing to release my feminine side.

[DuckiesDarling]

Okay I will post.... thought long and hard about it but I'll just say it.

Yes, I'm straight...have no intention of being other than straight.

But LDD and I use creative role play in our sexual adventures and love making and there have been a few "Yep right there moments" when things have clicked and when I was using a strapon or feeldoe on him that I literally became the male and he the female. A very intense feeling. Then another time he had inserted the pony end of the feeldoe in me and actually gave me a "blow job" something I found very much erotic.

So yes we do, yes we use it during sex but for me not outside of the bedroom, not sure about him.

[innaminka]

I would like to be able to just undo my fly and pee. (I can pee standing but its just not the same)

maybe to stand at a bar and tell terrible lies about my sporting or sexual prowess at the same time as burping and farting.........

Feel a male orgasm???? (Where's the tissues??? :eek:)

seriously, perhaps the one thing I would like to be able to experience, and never will, is to actually FEEL being inside a woman.

Otherwise, I'm quite happy!

[darkeyes]

My brother and his family were over last night for dinner. It was a pleasant few hours.. not the usual raucous Friday night we spend with our m8s, but lots of giggles and the odd recollection of our childhood.. and a few glasses of plonk and some very nice cognac..

My brother mentioned my childhood wish to be a boy.. now none of this had anything to do with sex or sexuality.. when I was little.. I was LITTLE.. my best friend of the time wasn't that big, but the top of my head barely reached her nose.. I was picked on, name called and pushed around and generally given hard time.. yes I was a cheeky little bee, but the hassle I got was more than just vengeance for my lip... big bruv was brill at sticking up for me and dealing with my persecutors, but he couldn't be around all the time and when he wasn't I suffered..lots.. and very badly... so after one particularly nasty beating from some kids in the park, I marched home, covered in cuts and bruises, my clothes torn, minus my shoes and demanded of my parents "Why am I not a boy?? Why did you make me so tidgie? I hate you!!!!"

I was 6 at the time, and for several months I truly did want to be a lad... but that's the only period of my life I can safely say it ever entered my tidgie lil brain..

[elian]

When I was a child and even in early teens I wanted to be female, I guess in growing to be an adult I've learned to accept a lot about myself including my physical gender. As I posted in other thread I didn't have the best male role models growing up, accepting myself and loving myself - inside and out has sort of been a process of understanding that not all men are drunk abusive assholes - and not all men fit the 2D stereotypes we see on TV - when I was young that's pretty much all I had to go on.

It's just easier living with the factory installed equipment and learning to appreciate myself for who I am.

[Robinium]

seriously, perhaps the one thing I would like to be able to experience, and never will, is to actually FEEL being inside a woman

Yes, you can. Fisting. ;)

[elian]

I guess maybe this thread was meant to be in a sexual context but maybe I should mention that I took a workshop on gender at church one time - when the question was asked men's perception seemed to be that they resented always having to appear in control, protective, etc and women said that they resented perceived lack of independence.

In short, it seemed as though every single person in the room disliked being labeled by gender, and the connotations that brought with it. My own conclusion was if no one is happy with the rules, why have them? But of course society cannot function in large groups without some sort of "standard" and the idea that we propagate folks who look, sound and act like us is a philosophy that used to serve humankind quite well for several hundred years.

I think we fight tooth and nail to change those "standards" because they are so basic to what we have been taught at the subconscious level. The fact that so many people are so unhappy over how they identify (not just gender) is terrible and dare I say maybe a symptom of a larger underlying problem with the way people relate to society or perhaps an indicator of pending underlying change. The fact that marketers take every opportunity they can in our waking hours to exploit self image definitely does not bode well for trying to teach people to have respect for themselves and others.

[void()]

"In short, it seemed as though every single person in the room disliked being labeled by gender, and the connotations that brought with it. My own conclusion was if no one is happy with the rules, why have them? But of course society cannot function in large groups without some sort of "standard" and the idea that we propagate folks who look, sound and act like us is a philosophy that used to serve humankind quite well for several hundred years.

I think we fight tooth and nail to change those "standards" because they are so basic to what we have been taught at the subconscious level. The fact that so many people are so unhappy over how they identify (not just gender) is terrible and dare I say maybe a symptom of a larger underlying problem with the way people relate to society or perhaps an indicator of pending underlying change. The fact that marketers take every opportunity they can in our waking hours to exploit self image definitely does not bode well for trying to teach people to have respect for themselves and others."

Then you've odd ducks like me. Forget me sitting still long enough to become imbued upon media. Even when I don't work as such, remaining in a stasis of constant movement seems apropos.

And frankly, I don't care which cuddles up in bed, man, woman, butterfly.

But I do care about the person, as a person. People aren't objects. I know at times we lose sight of that. So, I keep in check.

Truth is interesting to say the least.

[open2both]

I sooo enjoy dressing and femming up! Mmm.
I'd love to be a Cosmo hottie in every way BUT I love my penis!

[void()]

I sooo enjoy dressing and femming up! Mmm.
I'd love to be a Cosmo hottie in every way BUT I love my penis!

Yeah. I once asked my straight wife about a sex change for me. Got told she enjoyed every bit of me as a guy, if she had wanted a woman she would have married one.

"So, I can't be a gal?"

"Does the word divorce have meaning?"

And I'm alright with being a guy. But sometimes I love to just not be. S'why i got my man, elian. :-) And sometimes I'm even a guy with him. I'm a weirdo but those I love get spoiled rotten, so Sall Good.

[jimisbi]

I've wanted to be female for as long as I can remember. I don't want to be a m2f transsexual, but rather to be born as female. I would love to have a vagina, breasts, long silky hair, and a petite figure. As for a sexual fantasy about being female; yes definitely and more than anyone can ever imagine. Even now when having sex with men I prefer to be the one who is penetrated.

[BooBooKittie]

Wow,ok. The title of this thres drew me in immediately.

I admit it. I fantasize about being the opposite sex.

I wish I could be a guy for one day and really experience what is like to please a woman and to have her please me.

As of right now, nothing gets me hotter (while enjoying an intimate moment alone) than watching "my cock" slide in and out of a wet, quivering pussy.
Yum,yum :D

I love men and I love women, I just want to please everyone to the best of my abilities.

:three:

[Robinium]

SORRY, VERY LONG POSTING AGAIN!!!


Sexual fantasies about being the opposite sex?

Hmmm, very good question, and I've been avoiding answering in this thread for a while but what the heck...

I'd say I switch in this respect. My sex (body) is currently in-between female and male, my junk being mostly female, the rest of the body more male than female, and my gender (mind) being about 80% male. And I have like an "inner body map" which says - male. Let me explain this - I always wondered whenever I wanted to scratch my stubbles, but there was no beard growing, had a reflex to protect my non-existing balls from pain whenever a football was thrown there etc. I even have a "phantom penis" more or less like what other people experience as having a "phantom limb" after they lost their arm or leg, not just when I'm aroused but on various occasions. My tits, on the other hand, are just weird lumps that don't seem to belong to my body, but at least they're small. My high-pitched voice annoyed me a lot, but this never hindered me from talking a lot. :rolleyes: Yeah, and the rest of my body seemed to me like it was undeveloped or unfittingly female until I got on testosterone and my male puberty started, which seemed to be my first puberty for me. The female puberty before was more like the movie "The Fly" from David Cronenberg...

So when I masturbate or have sex with somebody involving my genitals, it is a great physical feeling, but weird and awful in other ways as there are body parts involved which even surprise me that they are there at all and which remind me that my body is female - which would turn me off or even caused a break-down if I had not developed lots of tricks to deal with it.

I usually manage to bypass this problem with several tricks I've started to use as soon as I had sex with my first boy-friend as a teenager (I couldn't masturbate till orgasm before age 21). It's by ignoring the EXACT sensations I get from my nerves and filtering the experience into a fuzzy neutral sensation, or by evading into phantasies not involving my genitals at all. Or I imagine I have a penis but it's just inverted inside (my vagina) - this one always makes trans women laugh out loud cause that's exactly what happens to their penis during their surgery. Or by doing something not involving my genitals or masturbating my "phantom penis" in the air where it should be... and I can even come from that, as well as from fucking someone with a strap-on or getting my strap-on blown. The latter cases can even give me a mental orgasm (e. g. paraplegics get them too), and this kind of orgasm is - well, really mind-blowing. (And even if I don't get an orgasm from it, it gives me new input for masturbation phantasies, so that's okay. Plus who says you need to have an orgasm each time you have sex? Throw this conviction out of your mind and you'll enjoy sex more.)

Or I imagine I'm a guy with male junk but just have the sexual phantasy that I'm a girl right now. It's weird as hell but it works fine, and it's good to get the confirmation from this thread that these phantasies actually exist. Thank you all! Sometimes during masturbation, I also memorize past sexual experiences I had and depending on what exactly happened and how hot I was dressed in female mode then :bigrin:, I see myself in male or female or "doesn't matter WTF I'm right now" mode there. Or during sex with a partner, I just concentrate on my sex partner then and ignore my own body until I hopefully get an orgasm, which sometimes works, e. g. I can come from blow-jobs or licking a girl.

Playing aroung with the "hardware" I have right now, being able to play with a pussy and tits whenever I want to does not work for me as a turn-on on its own, as they've always been there and are nothing special to me. Plus it's not even that I'm at least neutral about them. I think such phantasies are like any fetish - once it is there all the time, it loses its thrill. I usually have a hard time deliberately fancying myself as female for sexual phantasies - though occasionally it works - especially if I dress up that fantasy in sexy clothes.

I'd really love it if I didn't need to use so many self-made mindfucks and tricky by-passes just to be able to masturbate like anyone else, or to appreciate some of my sexual activities without risking to "crash" or at least get turned off when my workarounds fail. But then again, I am still one of the lucky trans people where these mindfucks at least work, and even work very well and very reliably - complete crashes are rare, turn-off effects can be neutralized after one minute or two. So I'll just leave my junk the way it is.

Plus maybe all that fuss that caused me to be more inventive and experimental in my sex life than many other people - if you need lots of work-arounds anyway to just make it work, you may get very creative and open-minded over time in general to make it interesting (yes, and maybe also kinky as hell as many kinks function well to by-pass gender trouble :tong:). Main impact the trans shit had was that I usually need looong until I come cause the mindfucks and bypasses don't work for quickies, but this is not bad at all cause I'm into orgasm control, orgasm delay etc. anyway (or because of that?), as the orgasm can build up more and gets MUCH stronger - and it leaves me more time to enjoy it all.

Oh, and if anyone wondered, the scientific term for the phantasy which is talked about in this thread is called autogynephilia. Shrinks love to invent obscure names for sexual phantasies and to pathologize them, especially if they are not that common. I think this phantasy is original and creative, but not abnormal in any way. For a guy who has an imaginative mind and is into girls, this kind of phantasies is not far off. (And vice versa, but it has a different scientific term then.)

[ErosUrge]

First I will state clearly that I enjoy very much being male and for all the reasons at least sexually that it entails. I enjoy the sexual experiences and the incredible passionate moments that have been made available to me through the years.
However at times though rare, I have felt like a woman and have loved that feeling. As a lover, I have felt the role reversed with a couple of men in these most tender of moments and also with the very intense passionate and lusty ones too. And with some experiences with certain women as well. Don't misunderstand; I certainly have no illusions about who had the vagina and who the penis....I just mean on another level. And of course, whenever seeing a woman in the throes of ecstasy, I have wondered what those emotions and feelings were like. Though I've had my own share of what felt like almost out of the body orgasms because of the intensity of them, they seemed sometimes pale in comparison with certain women. And then it seems to me there is this level of sensuality in the love making process that elevates to a place quite intoxicating and feeling as though in a trance; where gender no longer matters....a transformation where the glow of these special moments seems timeless and that moment is all that matters whether male or female.
With that said, I also remember when my child was only about 3 or 4 months old. And her mother had to work at night at the time and was breast feeding her. It was the first night her going to work. The baby woke in the middle of the night and I went to her to pick her up and rock her. I had no shirt on and she looked for a breast. Realizing there wasn't one, she cried more. I felt so inadequate and terrible that I could not provide sustenance in the way of a breast with milk for her. So I paced with her and talked to her and finally I began to cry also and at that moment, she stopped crying. I remember thinking after that experience how I wished that men were able to have breasts after the birth of a child to assist in the feeding of their children too. Breasts just for that time and then return back or to keep them if they wanted....now there's quite the fantasy.
To add more to this, I also have felt from time to time that women seem to be rewarded multiple and intense orgasms surpassing males in their intensity because of the labor of childbirth. Call that naive or far-fetched, but it seemed or seems to me to make sense. I know that these last statements are a bit of stretch for many but they're my own experiences.
And finally for those who give any credence to reincarnation, I have been told by 2 individuals that indeed I was a woman in my last life. Do I believe this is the question and to answer, I don't really know. But it seems pretty logical to me as I do feel the feminine in me very potently at times. That doesn't mean that I am effeminate in appearance or behavior as I am not, but I do sense and feel that energy inside me and have an awareness of it.
The original topic here: Sexual fantasies about being the opposite sex.....
Well, I don't know if it is a fantasy at all. I am pleased in so many ways to be a male. And I enjoy the occasional moments of feeling the feminine inside me. For me, this is a very good balance.